By Heidi Smith Coaching
We have all heard the story of the mom who is so busy with caring for her family she eats gold fish for lunch, wearing makeup is a thing of the past and exercise is running after their toddler all day. Most of us moms, at some point in time, have given up things we need and enjoy in life for the sake of caring for our family. At first sight it appears that these selfless acts are for the greatest good. Is it possible that this martyrdom is actually sabotaging both the health of her and her family?
Habits are easier caught than taught. Eating well, exercising, and having healthy social outlets are habits that speak volumes to our children without even a word being said. How we go about our daily lives tell our children what we think the best way to live is. Teaching your child that self care is important in all stages of life allows them to learn healthy boundaries and is an asset that allows them to thrive in the world as they grow and face challenges.
Patience is a virtue. I used to think I had the gift of inexhaustible patience. That was until I had kids and realized patience not only takes practice but if I get too worn out, I will break and my frustration will get the best of me. You know this point when the stimulation of your household was fun yesterday and today it feels like a type of torture. If there is no rest, emotional outlet or personal validation, nerves get worn out and impatience becomes a habit. Far too late we realize we are not treating our family the way we want to- with love and respect- and feel trapped by situational exhaustion. Taking time away to get recharged is essential to quality relationships. The emotional load of having a family requires an energizing recovery- unique recovery for you. Doing things that bring out your personhood and individuality are the greatest energy givers. What is this for you?? Teach your kids to find what this is for them so when they are tired, frustrated, worn out they have an energy giving outlet in their life.
It’s all about chemistry. Exercise, rest and nutrition are KEY players in our health. The powerful affects of these go beyond prevention of illnesses like diabetes and heart disease but actually change your chemistry and hormones. These affects are potent medicine! In fact, the same mechanism of actions that many mood-altering medications perform can be accomplished through diet, exercise and stress reduction alone! Stabilizing blood sugar levels, moderating stress, and releasing serotonin through exercise WILL make you feel better and be a better mom; and this will result in a healthier family.
Through planning, prioritizing and simply living what you believe you will not only be a healthier mom but will lead a legacy of health for your family.
Action Step: Tell a friend the one habit you will adopt to be a healthier mom.